Tempted to go to 'Back Road'

• Date: 10 November 2020
• Published date: 10 November 2020

I am writing to you about a problem that I have had for almost three or so years. I have been trying to get a girlfriend but all of them have turned me down.

I do not know what it is about me that turns off women and makes them not want to give me the time of day. I always smell good and wear clean clothes even though most of them do not look good on me since I cannot tell my parents what to buy.

Recently, I graduated from college and, fortunately, I have been blessed with a job. I am now able to dress well since I can now work my own money. Despite my efforts to find a girlfriend, it always ends up in a dead end. I may not have the perfect personality but I am definitely a guy that most persons in general can get along with. Due to this pandemic, it has made it even more difficult for me to find a girlfriend let alone have the prospects of marriage some day.

I have tried using dating apps but they are another dead end. Most users don't respond and a few just talk as if they are not interested. I won't say I am a Christian but I have tried my best to live a life that is in accordance with God since the day I was baptised, which was almost two years ago. I am now 23. I am on the verge of just giving up.

I want a wife but it does not seem that it will ever happen to me despite how hard I try. I might as well just settle for Port Henderson Road girls and whatever happens, happens.

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Dear Writer,

Whenever I get letters from young men in your age group trying to find girlfriends, I am suspicious of them. I wonder if they are genuine.

Over the years, I have got...